Over the past year, I have been going through a painfully slow process of having tests and results to try and find out what is wrong with my hearing. I seem to suffer the inverse of “cocktail party syndrome” and when in a room with too much background noise – I effectively end up deaf.
The first series of tests and reports from doctors couldn’t find anything physically wrong, and the last doctor I saw agreed to refer me further after I pointed out that the graphs/MRI may say nothing is wrong but there most certainly is a problem.
In actual fact, it seems that I have excellent hearing in physical terms – but I just can’t hear people when there is too much background babble – it all merges into a white noise and I can’t isolate the person standing next to me from the background noise.
Anyhow, yesterday I went for the referral which is basically the final point to go – and at last – someone has identified a problem.
I’ve persisted in trying to get this resolved one way or the other as it is an incredible social handicap. I can’t hear people in even the most ordinary of pubs and trying to go to a music venue is frankly pointless. When standing in a group of friends, I often drift to the edge and just stand there bored silly waiting for a suitable excuse to go home. Indeed, I have been told off for doing that – even though it is frankly the only thing I can do in the circumstances.
It can be somewhat depressing at times, and as a single chap it would be nice to be able to approach people without the worry that I might spend the whole evening saying “pardon” to every other sentence!
Despite the tests showing very good hearing, I do have a slight drop off at the high frequencies, and although not that serious – it does explain the problem I have – which has been termed Auditory Processing Disorder (APD). Apparently this issue was first diagnosed about 40 years ago, and while no one is really sure what causes it, it is thought to affect up to 10% of the adult population and is not generally age related.
Also, alas – there is no cure.
There are treatments of sorts – but they are more based around learning to live with the issue than actually treated it in the usual means.
Many people with this issue report one side is worse than the other – and I do sit to the left of people where possible as my left side is worse (that showed up in the graphs), but it seems that I should try to face the person as I need more visual clues to help fill in the missing detail in the speech. I was once accused of lip-reading when people talk to me, and what was an unconscious act may have to become something I practice more proactively in future.
There are a few other ideas, but mainly – I just need to avoid noisy environments.
Alas, as most social environments tend to be quite noisy (even when the music is turned down), this will prove to be difficult.
So, at the end of the road as far as hearing tests are concerned, and while there is nothing that can be done medically to help – at least I know there is an identifiable problem and it is not just my imagination that all this is happening.
It is a relief to know I am not alone in this – even if there isn’t a huge amount that can be done about it.
Ah ha! I didn’t realise it has a name.
I had a series of tests about 10 years ago, with the final diagnosis of “Obscure Auditory Dysfunction”, which I took to mean “not a clue, sorry”.
I sympathise – I find social events in the evening quite awkward.
Sorry to hear there’s nothing more that can be done.
Trying to put a positive spin on things, my eyes are drawn to the claim that up to 10% of the adult population suffer from this condition to some degree.
If you have struggled to put a name to it and to identify workable techniques for dealing with it, we can assume almost everybody else will have failed, too.
Some well-chosen keywords driving traffic to a well-designed website full of advice may well prove lucrative…
I also can’t help thinking that a book called “how to hold a conversation in a noisy room” would sell quite a few copies :-)
Trust you to see a financial angle in my suffering ;)
Hello Ian, Came across your site by way of Diamond Geezer, and like your photos and observations, although I don’t usually comment. I am partially deaf (discovered at age 58, after suffering for about 5 years) and even with my super duper NHS hearing aids, find it virtually impossible to follow a conversation at a party or gathering if it’s noisy. I usually just nod and smile and say ‘Oh Yes’ a lot and people think I’m being attentive and a good listener. It’s a nuisance, but you get used to it.
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Really enjoyed reading about your hearing problem – I have had the exact same problems for years and recently succumbed to having a hearing test – I was amazed to be told that my hearing was “perfectly normal” and that my symptoms were classic obscure auditory dysfunction – and that nothing could be done to help – so I googled this and read all about it – I also stumbled on your blog – it made me chuckle to hear about someone else using the same tactics as myself for social events (which I normally try to avoid) – I am lucky that I am married (for the last 37 years) – she talked me into going for the hearing test and still thinks I am deaf as a post.
All the best for the future
I can’t personally relate to what you went through, but my uncle had Otitis Media, but because his primary physician didn’t diagnosis it correctly (told him to use some ear drops and come back in 2 weeks if it persists) and use a correct treatment, he eventually lost his hearing. I’m glad that you brought up APD though: I have met some people with this ailment while going to some of my uncle’s ENT physician appointments. This would shed in some light to those who may be living with some of the symptoms and don’t even realize it.
I have the same problem and as a result I have recently had a few issues at work recently. Luckily I am married but this only came about because my wife did not speak a word of English when we first met!
I do not go out to any crowded events, I can cope for an hour but after that I just can’t deal with it anymore and like you – I just want to go home.
I am OK on a one to one basis, but get me in a crowd and it’s just not good.
I was a year behind at School and bottom of the C stream and was forecast to get zero O’Levels – at a private school! So I told my House Master that I would not attend any classes in my final term and that I would work on my own.
Presto – I got 7 O’Levels and nobody could believe it. If I knew that I had a problem I could of got 20 O’Levels at a breeze.
My Father was an excellent Opthalmic Surgeon, I now know that if I did not have this condition, I could have been a Doctor or god knows what. I’ve not done bad but it took me until I was 24 before I even understood that people could hear others talking two rows down the table or across the room. I had no idea I had a real problem or at least I could not identify the cause. I have had my hearing tested and guess what I am normal – you think!
i have just found out that i have oad. Im 21 and have no clue how to deal with what i’ve got. Im not one to to give up so was wondering if anyone can offer me any suggestions
Hi, I have also only just been diagnosed with OAD. I am very glad there is no physical problem with my hearing and also that the problem isn’t ‘in my head’ – but is ‘in my head’ if you see what I mean. The consultant I saw was very nice, explained the condition, said it was fairly normal and I wouldn’t be the only person he would see that afternoon with this condition. He said he could refer me to an audiologist who specialises in this condition. I said he might as well but knowing that there is no cure as such. I think this explains a lot about my personality and helps me understand things, like at work we often have the radio on and I feel ‘out of the loop’ when co-workers are gossiping / talking and am seen as a bit of a loner, now it’s obvious it’s not that im not interested I just can’t hear what people are saying to respond!
I have suffered fom this problem for as long as I can remember. It is a real social handicap and so frustrating because I like to be out with friends etc. I had a hearing test some fifteen years ago and it was found that my hearing was excellent and they never really sorted out what it was. Decided to have another crack and this week went to hospital for a hearing test. Result – hearing is well above average across all frequencies and I was told that I may well have ADP (auditory processing disorder) – apparently they can give you therapy (learning listening skills which help you to filter out the background noise I think) and I was given a letter to take back to my GP for the possibility of another referral for this. I’m not sure about this though – learning how to listen sounds a bit weird!!
The main text above made me smile because it is so familiar to me. I can find it very embarrasing with new people in noisy backgrounds because they basically just think you are an idiot. Even with people who understand your problem it can become annoying for both of you – who wants to have a conversation that is such an effort? Also sometimes have problems if using the telephone and with accents as well!
Maybe people with APD could form there own group – can you imagine what the social events would be like!!
Hi!
I`m 25 years old and I’ve had the same problem as you guys for as long as I can remember. All the hearing tests I’ve take say that I have perfect hearing, still I have problems understanding what people are saying whenever there’s background noise. That is really frustrating. I always hoped that it was just my imagination, as the tests never indicated a problem.
Recently I took another test, where they tested my understanding of spoken sentences in background noise. Now I finally have official confirmation that despite perfect hearing I have problems understanding speech in background noise. Now I at least know that it was not just my imagination all those years. Unfortunately there seems to be nothing I can do to improve my speech-hearing ability. That really sucks. So I will have to continue trying not to get so frustrated whenever I don’t understand what people are saying at parties, in the cafeteria, in the subway, etc. :(
I too have this condition, and while I’m sorry to hear that you suffer from it, I’m secretly glad someone else knows my pain! I have few friends, as like you said, there is little point in going to pubs and clubs, where unfortunately most people my age (22) socialize.
Like a few other people have said on here, I apparently have perfect hearing, I just can’t hear what people say! I think unless you have a condition like this it’s difficult to understand just how debilitating it is, as it affects absolutely everything you do. In fact, just this morning I went to a doctor because I thought it was getting worse, and was told to ‘get on with my life and stop wasting everybody’s time.’ Most unhelpful.
Anyway, just wanted to say thank you for letting me know I’m not alone.
Hi all. I’m an audiologist from South Africa and am surprised at how few professionals seem to know about OAD. I have known and worked with it for 17 years. To give you all hope: modern hearing instruments with directional microphone technology offer signal in noise ratio benefits, even if set at very low levels of amplification (particularly important with normal hearing thresholds. In addition, fm systems, which can be worn on the ear and offer a separate microphone that can be placed in the middle o a table of close friends, may allow people with OAD to minimise noise in a party or restaurant. It isn’t a perfect solution socially, but since sufferers cannot participate in a group, it offers an alternative to being left out entirely.
I have been reading about ‘new’ digital hearing aids. apparently they can turn down the volume of background noise, and amplify primary noise e.g. conversation. perhaps this could help?